I’m flabbergasted we need to continue to have this conversation, but we do (also: I wanted an excuse to use the word flabbergasted. It’s fun). Pretty’s got nothing to do with it (get the T-shirt that says so here, at Pigtail Pals). Let me put this in the simplest possible terms: People don’t deserve love because of how they look. If this were the case, people would be less deserving due to the color of their skin (over which, apart from spray tanning or bleaching, they generally have no control), their hair, how their facial features are arranged, what size they are. The more you think about it, really think about it, it’s downright ridiculous.
When the highest attainment girls can hope for is to be pretty, we all suffer for it. We need to love children, love each other, love our neighbor for reasons other than how they look. And we need to find out how to do it (and then DO IT) fast.
I’ve learned that “to love” means to identify with one’s source. To love your neighbor isn’t an emotionally conditional or circumstantial thing then, it is identifying your neighbor with their Source; in other words, to identify your neighbor as a child of God. God is Spirit, so we are identifying spiritual qualities in our neighbor. Then it’s easy to love. Instead of “pretty” or “not pretty” (or: worthy or not worthy), we see beautiful [1…having qualities that give great pleasure or satisfaction to see, hear, think about, etc.; delighting the senses or mind 2. excellent of its kind 3. wonderful; very pleasing or satisfying]. We see what God sees and what He/She sees is “very good.”
Think how this kind of love not only “equalizes the sexes,” but does away with violence (see this excellent editorial and article on the paradox of American gun culture), eliminates discord in political discourse, empowers us to be generous, opens up opportunities to bless and be blessed and brings us peace.
Can pretty do all that?